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What Happens After You Move? L I F E

by Komal Patel
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So, here’s the thing. 

I have officially been in Boston 3 weeks today.

Crazy right! 

The transition hasn’t been as smooth as I hoped, but, then again, when is moving across the country ever going to be smooth? 

Finding a job, a place to live, getting into a routine has not been easy

So many things that were a part of my every day regular life in San Diego have fell to the waste side and I am feeling helpless trying to put all the pieces back together. 

dramatic much. 

i know. 

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Blurry pics for blurry times

 Justin hasn’t arrived yet because he doesn’t graduate until mid-may, and my new job has got me off-schedule than most of my friends and working A LOT.

Most of you know I was a Risk Analyst for a bank in San Diego

I have been applying to jobs here (in that field) and haven’t had any luck. 

Not going to lie, it is starting to feel super frustrating. 

I have re-worked my resume, wrote numerous cover letters and have made many calls, without even so much as a decline email. 

i want to scream. 

Do you ever feel like you are putting so much effort into something with no return at all? 

current mood. 


I am super thankful that I received a job serving at a brand new restaurant ( we just opened last week) in Boston. 

Have you heard of Eataly

Basically it is a one stop shop for all things Italian: restaurants, groceries, classes, you name it. 

Truth be told…I love it!

It’s no secret that I love food, so anything that bring me around food more often is great for me. 

Because it is an Italian restaurant I have been learning a lot about food from the country and its different regions, but more importantly, the wine

 I’ll save the wine talk/learning for another day, another post 🙂

But back to that whole adjustment thing.

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How long do you think it takes to adjust to a new place? 

Well, the answer is as long as you need it take you.

The double edge sword of this is actually making yourself become adjusted. 

 Here is what I have learned over the last few weeks:

Don’t Stress.

Take Initiative.

Make Friends (Old and New).

Catch Your Bearings: 

Stop stressing about the small stuff. I legit stress about getting in the shower on time. It’s pretty ridiculous actually.

Just remember to breathe and realize you aren’t saving lives…you are just getting a simple daily task done.

Taking initiative to get things done can be hard too. Find that gym so that you can keep up on your workouts. Figure out where the nearest grocery store is so you aren’t eating out every night. 

Take the time to research the area you are in. After all, the more you know…

Making friends is hard as an adult but you have to dive right in. First try at work, maybe your neighbors? Bumble BFF is awesome too! Swipe right for you next bestie! (you might be surprised with this one. I tried it San Diego and met a bunch of amazing ladies to go to the beach and eat sushi with.)

Catching your bearings goes along with taking initiative. For me not knowing where I am going or where anything is can be extremely overwhelming, but I/we are big girls/people and we can make anything work once we set our minds to it. 

It sounds so cheesy, but you just have to do it

I really want to know what your thoughts are? 

How do you deal with change? 

Should I do another post dedicated to changing? 

Happy Wednesday xx

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Sheila Joy April 12, 2017 - 4:47 pm

I really like your writing style! And moving from the west coast to the east coast is a huuuge change, more power to you! I agree that it only takes as long to adjust to somewhere new as you think it takes. Finding new friends is probably one of the bigger struggles I face when moving, since I’m such an introvert.


Komal Patel April 13, 2017 - 2:37 pm

Thank you so much Sheila! You are right though, making friends is hard, especially as an adult, but if we put ourselves out there, we can do it!

Shruthi Rajashekar April 12, 2017 - 5:33 pm

Komal <3 Thanks for sharing about the ups and down with your move. I'm sorry you've been feeling frustrated and helpless, but just know that the feeling will feel fleeting when you look back after you've adjusted. Like you said, giving yourself the time you need is key. You are a rockstar for realizing the negatives and keeping a positive attitude. I hope you get settled in and the friends, job, and long-distance relationship all become easier with time <3 I know they will!

Komal Patel April 13, 2017 - 2:37 pm

Thank you Shruti, that means a lot. Want to come to Boston? 🙂

Sam Thorpe April 12, 2017 - 5:34 pm

Moving is so hard! It will get easier as you find your routine! Good luck in your job search! xo Sam


Komal Patel April 13, 2017 - 2:37 pm

Thanks Sam!

Meredith April 12, 2017 - 6:36 pm

I’ve never moved across the country, but I think you’re pretty brave to do so! Good luck on your new adventures!

Jenny April 13, 2017 - 2:16 am

Ugh yeah there’s definitely a huge adjustment but then you’ll start building a tribe and it’ll be great! Missing you a ton!

Komal Patel April 13, 2017 - 2:38 pm

How are things for you and your move? SF is close but still a culture shock. Miss you lady!

Kimberly Cox April 13, 2017 - 2:17 am

Ugh, moving… lol. I’ve never moved across country, but moving 3 hours away from home was bad enough. Here’s to hoping you find a routine soon and can settle. Good Luck!!!

Ali April 13, 2017 - 2:52 am

So true! I’m right in the middle of moving, so can totally relate. I’m excited, but also very nervous about starting all over again to figure out where I fit in.

Komal Patel April 13, 2017 - 2:39 pm

Take those nerves and turn them into something positive! You will do great!

Erin April 13, 2017 - 4:51 am

I just moved so I’m in the same boat as you. I think the suggestion to take the initiative is important. Get out there and be active and you’ll eventually meet lots of new friends! Good luck in your new city 🙂
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Natalie April 13, 2017 - 3:39 pm

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the move! I know you will find that perfect job soon! I’ve always actually really wanted to move across the country and experience just what you are (because it sounds so fun, right?! <- sarcasm). I stress about a lot of things as well (i.e., my recent post!). I totally agree though, we all can be "big girls" and get ahold of ourselves and just do it! Happy almost weekend babe!

xoxo, Natalie

Komal Patel April 14, 2017 - 5:02 pm

Hang in there girl! You will start your new job soon and everything will be ok!

Cameron - Diary of a Southern Millennial April 13, 2017 - 10:13 pm

Definitely feel you with the job thing – I remember applying to at least 70 and only heard back from a small handful. It was incredibly discouraging! But don’t worry – you’ll figure it out soon! Adjusting just takes a little time!

Komal Patel April 14, 2017 - 5:02 pm

You are right! Time is all it takes!

April April 14, 2017 - 3:25 am

I know just how scary it can be to move, having moved across the country twice. Change is good but can be so scary! I love your outfit too!

Komal Patel April 14, 2017 - 5:01 pm

Thank you April!


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