Welcome to another morning.
We made it! It is the first day of March.
I am totally repeating myself from Monday, but I really can’t believe it is March already.
I feel like time is moving so fast and I need to get some things off my chest.
My apologies in advance.
So, as you know, J and I are moving to Boston really soon!!
He accepted an invitation to attend Mass General Hospital Institute of Health Professionals, to pursue his doctorate in Physical Therapy.
Ok, here is a little backstory.
J and I met through mutual friends while I was living in Boston.
(If he ever proposes I’ll share the full story. Pretty interesting. Also, this isn’t a shameless plug to get him to buy me a ring……or IS IT?)
J was living in San Diego so I moved here to be with him as he was finishing his undergrad.
Not gonna lie. It was EXTREMELY hard leaving Boston. I had friends, family, job, a life. Ya know?
It took me over a year to get my bearings in SD…making friends as an adult is hard! I kept feeling like the friends I had made were his, not mine, which I now know wasn’t the case.
Almost 3 years later we are moving back to Boston and I am TERRIFIED.
Real Talk: Scared shitless to be exact.
I have made a nice little life in SD and I know nothing will be the same as it was in Boston.
I am trying to keep cool with the stress of finding a new job and apartment but it’s not going too well.
Being with Justin has taught me a few things, including always do research.
Hundreds of people uproot to new places all the time so I did some research on how to handle a move in hopes that I can help others going through a similar transition.
This source hit the nail on the head on how to handle a move.
BARRIERS TO OVERCOME
Fear of the unknown:
It is natural to worry about the unforeseeable — what this new place will be like as a home, how you’ll respond to it, and so on. Any major change brings unpredictability, which is unsettling.
Unfamiliarity with the process:
One big determinant of how stressed a move will make you is how often you’ve moved before. If you’ve never made the transition or your last move was in childhood, you’re bound to be more concerned about the process than a veteran re-locator.
Concerns about losing old friends and making new ones:
Parting with familiar people and setting yourself up in a new place usually brings loneliness — and the worry that old friends will disappear from your life entirely. Meanwhile, the prospect of making new friends can be daunting.
The sheer labor:
There’s no way around it — moving takes a lot of work, and you may feel overwhelmed by the myriad of details and decisions, from arranging for the moving van to setting up water and electricity in the new place. Then there’s discovering the best grocery stores, restaurants, and possible schools near your new home.
In any major life change, even the most positive, there will be things that you’ll miss about your old life. Some regret is inevitable.
STRATEGIES FOR SUCCESS
Research the new place:
Before you leave your familiar surroundings, learn about your new home through books, maps, online sites, and people who know the area. Pretend you’re a tourist. You don’t want to miss anything.
One of the greatest rewards of moving is the fact that it represents new beginnings and new excitement — a fresh landscape, new people to meet, perhaps a new and better job. If you keep that in mind, you can overcome a lot of negative feelings about the changes.
Create and use a support system:
To make new friends, be a joiner:
Mutual-interest clubs, classes, and religious gathering places offer easy and immediate opportunities to connect with new people.
Learn from your new contacts:
Find resources, like restaurants, doctors or therapists, to help with recommendations.
Don’t move alone:
If you’re single, or the only adult, ask a relative or friend to help you with the process. He or she can assist with the endless details, like scheduling moving trucks and connecting new utilities, as well as provide emotional support.
Start by establishing a comforting routine:
Set up some routines in the new place for a feeling of belonging in your new environment. Take regular walks in your new neighborhood to familiarize yourself with the streets and your neighbors. A gym routine can help structure your day and serve as a way to make new friends.
Seek out new experiences:
Instead of lamenting what you’re leaving behind, search for opportunities that are uniquely available in your new locale.
Reconnect with your partner:
If you’re moving with a partner, know that it can strain your relationship. Set aside time for connecting to help ease the pressure. Make ‘us time,’ go on dates, and help each other discover the new place.
Hang pictures on the wall:
This is the one simple thing that can make your new place feel like home right away
How do you all feel about moving? Any tips or suggestions that you have? I would love to know so I don’t feel like I am going crazy!
Talk to you soon! xx