New Year, New Vibes.
The strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity.
An act of concentrating interest or activity on something.
These two words are my GOALS for 2018.
Let me break it down a little.
I spent too much energy focusing on things that were not bringing value to my life. Wasted energy on holding grudges, being unhappy about things that are out of my control and only focusing on the negative.
To be honest, I am still living this way….like right now….however….
For 2018 I have made it my goal to redirect my energy and focus on to things that make me happy.
It is hard to see silver linings when you are blinded by the negative energy that you are so honed in on, focused on.
So many things derive from happiness and if you aren’t happy many aspects of your life can suffer; work, relationships, friendships, even things like your appetite can be effected.
So, how do you redirect your energy? How do you really focus? How do you get happy?
Well, that’s the million dollar question, right?
I am going through a journey of figuring out what works for me.
Recently I started really getting into yoga. At the stage I am in in right now, the whole mediation thing is pretty difficult. I can’t seem to keep my mind focused on just one thing. Luckily, I have all the time in the world to practice.
I believe wanting to change something is half the battle and the rest will all fall into place (with a little hard work and dedication of course. NOTHING comes free.)
Now, if you know that your energy is down and that you are focused on other things, there are ways to activate your brain for the positive.
“Dopamine is one of the over 100 neurotransmitters in the human brain.” Basically, it provides “the drive and focus you need to be productive.” It can effect everything from your attention span to follow-through all the way to motivation and the ability to experience pleasure, which, some could argue, is associated with happiness.
There are about a zillion ways to increase Dopamine in the brain, through things like exercise, massages, green tea, music……
However, I am talking about removing that negative energy and focusing on a positive solution.
Sometimes I think the lines of energy aren’t clear and honestly, it means something different to everyone.
You can certainly gain more physical energy and brain clarity after a massage, but is it really going to make the whole issue go away?
I speak from experience when I say focusing on a positive solution to negative energy is tough.
There are days where it may not happen at all, but you have to figure out steps to get yourself to the right place of mind, ya know?
I have a 5 steps that I am personally working to conquer this year.
LEARNING FROM THE NEGATIVITY.
EMPHASIZING THE POSITIVE AND AFFIRMING IT AS IT COMES ALONG.
RETRAIN MY BRAIN TO THINK OF THE POSITIVE.
FINDING AN OUTLET.
I am in control of my life and so are you. Instead of dwelling and blaming others, reflect and take your share of whatever the issue is. Sometimes, it really isn’t your fault so it is easy to be positive in those cases. Lets face it though. It takes 2 to tango and most likely, the blame should be shared. Take responsibility for the actions that were caused by YOUR actions.
Like I said earlier…..these are things that I am trying to work on (have been trying to work on). It’s not easy. If it was, we all would take responsibility for our faults.
LEARNING FROM THE NEGATIVITY
If something negative happens to you, stop taking it like it’s the end of the world.
I am a god damn drama queen. I embellish and blow things out of proportion. Doing this, brings more stress into my life. You can’t control everything. Behind every bad encounter try to learn and grow. If you learn something new, great. If you realize how you would prefer to handle something the next time it occurs, even better. Learning and growing take a life time of effort. You just have to want it.
EMPHASIZING THE POSITIVE AND AFFIRMING IT AS IT COMES ALONG
“Positivity is the ultimate contour to negativity, so if you want to get rid of negativity in your life, focus on positivity.”
Way easier said than done.
How the hell do we do this?!
“Emphasize your positive actions, create positive affirmations that you repeat to yourself daily, and do your best to remove negative language from your vocabulary. Next time you are tempted to say negative words like “I can’t” or “I hate,” stop, take a breath and try to rephrase your statement without the negative words.”
RETRAIN MY BRAIN TO THINK OF THE POSITIVE
If you are like me you may internally think negative thoughts…if that’s the case it’s time to retrain the brain. Turn those negative thoughts and feelings into motivating energy to get shit done and prove to yourself and others that you got this. The more you say you are a “can’t” person or a “no” person, the more your life will end up like that.
I am struggling with this one a lot. Sometimes it really feels like you just can’t. Like literally. The more you give weight to that, the more you become like that. Start replacing your “cant’s” with “cans” and your “no’s” with “yes’s.” The more you practice the more natural it will be and your brain will be trained to access the “yes’s” and “can’s” well before a negative thought can occur.
(If you have this step locked down, I could use your help on how to make this happen. Sometimes just saying yes in your head isn’t enough unless you truly believe it)
FINDING AN OUTLET
Let your mind take a second to relax and concentrate on something else altogether. Go work out and burn away the negative energy. Meet a friend for tea and go to the movies. Shit, go on a shopping spree at your boyfriend’s expense (it’s for your mental health after all.).
Arm yourself with all the tools you need to be successful. I know it sounds like you’re taking yourself to war, but in a way, you are. Keep your mind strong and your will power stealth. Practice, practice, practice. Every time I have a negative feeling or am feeling unfocused and hazy, I try to write down exactly what it that is causing it. Honestly, some of the times I have blamed another person or another situation…you won’t get it right every time.
As long as you give your best effort and are willing to try, the rest should fall into place.
Self-care = love.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself first.
You’re worth it.