I HATE ARIE.
So I haven’t real dove into pop culture on the blog yet, but I thought now would be a great time to put in my 10 cents after Monday night’s finale.
I have a not-so guilty pleasure….The Bachelor (and the Bachelorette, and Bachelor in Paradise and Bachelor the Winter Games).
It might be a problem.
If you are like me you were totally appalled by Arie’s behavior on Monday.
Arie is in love with 2 women.
He has to propose to one.
Can’t decide between the two and pussies out and goes with his parents’ choice.
Enjoys a few weeks of engagement bliss.
Realizes he made the wrong choice.
Then breaks up with his fiancé…in front of cameras…without any warning…and blindsides her…after she gave her blessing for him to talk to her again for closure.
That is fucked up.
I get that he “did the right thing” by ending it before they got married….however….he should have never proposed if he wasn’t 100%.
LIKE, that’s a basic requirement before proposing to someone.
Hey, I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
Hey, me too!
Seems pretty simple to me.
I am pretty disgusted by how Arie chose to conduct and present himself to the women on this show.
I know that it is a reality show, but after being close to being on one, here, there are real humans with real feelings and emotions on the line.
As a fan of this show, as well as other reality shows, I don’t believe I have seen anything as cruel as I did the other night.
For the most part you can expect a level of “fantasy” and not-so-reality.
After all, TV is all about ratings and drama increases ratings.
That being said, was it necessary to bombard this poor girl with multiple cameras as she think she is there for a “happy couple’s weekend.”
Was it necessary for Arie to leave and come back after she repeatedly told him to leave?
Were the two side by side screens capturing each facial expression necessary?
How about the empty hallway where you hear Becca crying because of the hurt she has been put through.
It is so, so, so MEAN, to gain off someone else’s hardship.
The Bachelor really out did themselves with this “un-edited and raw coverage”.
I can’t help but think, what I would do if I was in Becca’s situation, regardless of if there was a show or not.
I definitely wouldn’t have been as nice as her, and there definitely would have been more yelling and cursing.
Why does Arie get to come out of this untouched and unscathed?
Ultimately, he got what he wanted out of the deal.
As of last night’s second episode he pathetically shows up on Laurens door begging for forgiveness as she seemingly takes him back makes me so mad!
Arie has now relinquished any responsibility he has in the matter and has come out a “winner” with the woman he loves.
But what about Becca?
What happens to her?
As the scenarios play out in my head the only thing she can really do is MOVE ON.
She has a few options as far as her Bachelor legacy goes…
Continue to “believe in this process,” or say FUCK IT, and remove all instances (the best she can) of The Bachelor and her time on it.
I seem to be talking circles with this subject because I feel for her!
Although I have never been proposed to… I can’t help but relate to this woman and the emotions that she is feeling.
I wouldn’t go as far to say men suck, though, when you hold all the cards you need to know how to present them and when to present them.
Arie tried to bluff and he failed. FAILED BIG TIME.
Moral of the story: follow your heart BUT use your BRAIN too.
To me, they go hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other.
The other moral of the story… BOYCOT the Bachelor for their horrid, painful and harsh depiction of this breakup.
Advice to the show: next time let the couples sort it out off camera (they can always discuss what happened on After the Final Rose) OH and pick a Bachelor who isn’t a total PUSSY and can stand up for himself and make his own decisions.