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My Big Fat Indian Wedding Part 1: The Lead Up

by Komal Patel
My Big Fat Indian Wedding Part 1 The Lead Up


This is the kick off to my ultimate wedding series. If you’re not into details, stop reading now. I am going to share allllllllllllllllllllllllllll the little, big, best, annoying details of our wedding over the next several weeks.

We have a few professional photos that our photographer shared with us as part of our sneak peak, but ultimately, I am going to give you a behind the scenes look with some personal photos taken from family and friends throughout our wedding weekend.

(technically I don’t know if it can be called a “weekend” since our wedding spanned 4 days, but whatever)

If you need a refresher on what events take place and what they mean, check out THIS post where I break every event ( & its significance) down.


The lead up to the wedding was super exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time.

I had taken the week before the wedding off (as well as 3 weeks after the wedding) to get prepped, greet family and roll into the wedding weekend stress free.

I started the week with an amazing half day at the Mandarin Oriental Spa. Think full body massage, a custom facial to help with bloating and lots of time in a jetted tub.

My Big Fat Indian Wedding Part 1 The Lead Up

I did a 90-minute therapeutic massage, followed by a 90 minute Custom made facial.

This was my first time at the Mandarin spa and I am OBSESSED. When I checked in the handed me a chic, comfy robe, fuzzy slip on slippers and this amazing mint tea. They gave me a tour of the facilities and I quickly jumped into my robe and headed to the massage.

Quick Note*** have you ever had a massage that wasn’t on a heated bed? I have, and it sucks.  The heated massage bed really spoiled me. I don’t think I can ever go back to non-heated. The heat helps your muscles relax even more than they already are and keeps you warm from the elements in the room. I’ve noticed a lot of massage rooms are slightly cold, but I am sure its more so for the masseuse.

The facial was AMAZING. She did an analysis on my skin to see what products she should be using and what areas to focus on. My skin came back DRY – fuck this Boston weather. I hydrate, moisturize, oil – do ALL THE THINGS – & my face is still dry. WOMP.

OH – did I mention the extractions?!? I’ve done extractions a few times and honestly, I never really see a difference. I really wish I remember my esthetician’s name because she removed ALL the nasty shit from my chin and nose. BUH-BYE BLACK & WHITE HEADS.

It was a V relaxing day to help get me beautified and relaxed for the upcoming week. That night my brother flew in and the next day me, him, J and our best friend, Colin (who was also Justin’s best man) decided to go out to dinner.

My brother kept dubbing it “the last meal,” & I have no idea why….isn’t the bachelor party supposed to be the last whatever?

Like, can the future wife be part of it? Idk. Anyways.

We got ridiculously drunk. Like kind of absurd, spilling wine everywhere, loud, annoying, DRUNK.

We ordered WAY too much food and filled up on the apps. When my 100 day dry-aged ribeye hit the table I was spent. Like seriously. I had 2 bites of my steak and was donezo.

My Big Fat Indian Wedding Part 1 The Lead Up

Shout out to Grill 23 and Rachel, who was not only my matron of honor (& Colin’s wife) but a manager at Grill who put up with us OH SO graciously.

oops. Moving on.

The Wednesday before the events kicked off was pretty hectic. I worked out at Orange Theory Fitness (this place is my new workout obsession and I went every day before the wedding to keep everything TIGHT).

I gmy nails done – I went with a dark maroon to match my wedding dress and added little tiny gold beads to the cuticle area on just a few fingers for some glam. If you’re in Boston go see Lan at Elegant Nails and Spa. She is stellar and can do pretty much anything you ask her to do.

After that we went grocery shopping for supplies for the weekend. You know, the usual, booze, snacks and RAMEN ingredients.

Justin and I really wanted to serve ramen at the wedding after party – pizza, tacos, burgers etc. are so DONE. We wanted our guests to have something a little different and something to keep them warm since our wedding was in winter.

A lot of our wedding details were non-traditional for an Indian wedding, but I’ll be talking more about it during this wedding series over the next several weeks.

On that note, I hope you enjoyed PART 1 of our wedding.

My Big Fat Indian Wedding Part 1 The Lead Up



Sweet and Masala

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Viano Dee January 16, 2020 - 10:15 pm

Wow! This was quite an interesting read. Looking forward to reading more. Congratulations and happy married life.

Nina January 16, 2020 - 10:29 pm

haha, looks like yous had a great crack !!!! congratulations !!! wish you a great many years of happiness

Cherrie Bautista January 17, 2020 - 3:47 am

The massage sounded awesome! I totally agree, heated beds are the best! I always fall asleep a few minutes after every massage, I just get so relaxed and doze off right away. Glad you had a relaxing time before your wedding!

Kemi January 17, 2020 - 6:08 am

Love it! Reminds me of my Nigerian culture where everything from the introduction, traditional, court and/or church wedding (include rehearsals and dinners for in-laws, family, coordinated clothing…) can span several months! All with guests the size of a small island nation smh. Some brave souls do it in a day or weekend and are so exhausted. I love Indian saris and fabric so eager to see yours.

Komal Patel January 17, 2020 - 2:28 pm

WOW, several months?!?!? That is crazy!

Komal Patel January 21, 2020 - 2:33 pm

Wow! Months, that’s crazy! Not sure I could have handled that lol

Loril Bosworth January 17, 2020 - 4:41 pm

That’s so great that you were able to take so much time off to prep for your wedding. Starting your wedding week with a spa visit sounds like a great idea!

Maysz January 18, 2020 - 6:34 am

Wow! How sweet! It sounds like a dream come true! Preparing for the wedding is a girl’s dream. Congratulations wish you all the best in your married life.

Karla January 20, 2020 - 5:50 am

Congratulations on your marriage. I’m hooked! I wanna know more about your wedding. It looks like you had serious preparations for it.

Clarice January 20, 2020 - 3:40 pm

Congratulations! I look forward to reading more of your wedding stories/ preps. Happy to know you enjoyed your facial. I had also had a massage and facial treatment before my wedding. We actually had a spa party during my bachelorette’s party.

Lisa fuccj January 24, 2020 - 2:36 am

My buddy was in an I dian wedding and the photos were amazing!


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